Year: 2020

As I’ve mentioned previously, we are a respite foster home…this means that we provide respite (or a break) to homes placed with a longer-term placement. We know that full-time foster care can be exhausting, and sometimes foster parents simply need a break. And that’s ok. That’s why respite exists…so that they can step away for…

As I mentioned in Part 1 of this “two part series”, we ended up disrupting two placements. And since this is clearly NOT what should happen, I want to discuss some ways I believe that at least one of these disruptions could have been avoided. Let me begin by saying this: The system being what…

OK so I’m about to delve into something I don’t like to discuss because it makes me feel as though I failed. I’m an enneagram Type 1 so if you’re into that sort of thing, you’ll understand that I am something of a perfectionist. And even though I am aware that I am not perfect,…

As you may recall from the post about Foster Parents Must Be Married, (spoiler alert in case you have not read it): foster parents do not have to be married; single people can absolutely be foster parents. So if we understand that foster parents can be single, and we utilize our deductive reasoning, we know…

One role of a foster parent which isn’t often discussed is that of “keeper of the story”. And what I mean by that is that as a foster parent, you are tasked with preserving and holding the story of the child entrusted to your care… So what IS the big deal about the story behind…

So I have been ruminating this week about what we thought foster care would be like versus what it has ended up being for us. This will obviously be very different for every single person, but here are just a few of my thoughts and ramblings. Six years ago last week, a teeny, tiny, well-below-the-growth-chart,…

For once a belief some people have about foster care is actually true: not every child who comes into foster care has Medicaid. Albeit, most of them do enter the system on Medicaid…but not all of them. But before anyone panics and thinks that you shouldn’t be a foster parent simply because the child might…

This is one thing that people sometimes “wah wah wah” to me about…” It just takes so long to get licensed.” But honestly, it is more about how motivated someone is to get their foster care license. True, there are aspects about the licensing process over which you have no control…primarily once your application heads…

OK, so there are days when I have the thought, “I am too old for this!” But, I know it is not really true. Naturally, there may be an age when an individual might be too old to foster, which will vary from person to person…I’ll grant you that. But, it is WAY older than…

I completely understand why people would ask this question. Kids who come into foster care have all experienced trauma…even if the trauma is primarily being removed from everyone and everything they’ve ever known. That experience of removal, in and of itself, is trauma. More than likely there is additional trauma, which manifests in a variety…